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Sending Me Wrong Signals

Thu, 18 Mar 2010 03:00:04 +0800

dear podders...

sorry guys to be posting up something so lengthy at this hour. i am really confused and i do not know what to do. various opinions have been seeked from many dear friends, but i just need to get this all out.

ive been together with my ex for 2 years plus. these 2 years were prolly the happiest moments of my life. he was so sweet, patient, romantic, loving and caring. even as he entered NS, our relationship still went on strong.

but towards the end of our relationship (dec 2009), we started quarrelling a lot and it was about trust. i didn't trust him explicitly as i am uncomfortable with the idea of him preferring to have men's night out at clubs. he doesn't do it often, but i didn't like the idea as i enjoy clubbing too and i wonder why can't i be there as well.. neverthelessly i still let him go but we often quarelled after that on the next day as i would be jealous and paranoid, wondering what he did on that night. i also realized that he has a tendency to msg female friends on facebook if we're having problems with one another. perhaps he just needed a female opinion, just like how i spoke to male friends for advice on our relationship. there was once i got so angry at him for adding random females (often beautiful) online and i asked him why does he need to do that when he has me... he said he feels unbalanced as he has a lot of male friends but very little female friends.

it got into such a big issue that i left him the decision choose me or doing that on FB. he chose me in the end and has since stopped doing that. he told me its sincerely to make friends and nothing else. i felt really guilty and i relaxed on that issue since i dont want it to become a problem between us. i know that its my problem and i had to trust him since we're together... but its too late to say anything.

my worst fear came true. he went clubbing last week with his army mates, and so did i with my female friends. we went to separate clubs, had our fun and stuff. the next day, as usual due me being paranoid, i asked him if he danced with other ladies. he said he did... and i asked if he kissed anyone of them. following tt i told him to ignore that qns as i am just being jealous. he told me its okay, but he promised me he'll never lie to me. he did kiss a girl last night as he got too high. told me he was very sorry and he couldn't forgive himself. he told me tt his friends told him not to say it because he didn't take her number and didnt even know her name, so why tell me and hurt our relationship... but he felt tt i shd know because there shdnt be secrets among us. i was so hurt, so confused and wanted to end my life. how come i could protect myself even though men tried their luck on me because i remembered that i have a man, but why couldn't he remember me? that question kept repeating in my mind; i thought i was going crazy.

after his bookout, we met and had a talk. he hugged me and kissed my hand and told me that he's extremely sorry. i wanted to forgive him already, then he told me this..that he had a thought which he didnt want to entertain for quite a while because he knows its bad. he had this feeling that he wanted to be single... so he could have time to do what he wanted... like practising muay thai, running, going for dance classes, and clubbing without having to answer to a special someone. i asked if clubbing was such a big need to him tt can make him feel this way. he said its a reason but not a major reason.

he told me that he was extremely tired emotionally of handling our relationships. like the way i got jealous, the way i controlled him, the freedom tt he couldnt have, and the way tt i didn't trust him. he told me that he didn't know how long he can hang on for. he said that though its selfish for him to tell me all these since it would hurt me, he felt tt he needed to let me know because this is how he feels. he told me that he still loves me as much as the first day we got together, but he has no idea on how to make things work anymore. i begged and begged for a chance, hugged him and told him not to leave and tt i will change. he told me tt if he continued to stay it would be like hurting me... since he cannot see how to work things out and we'll be back at square one. i told him that i know that i am wrong in distrusting him and perhaps tts one of the reasons that drove him to forget abt me tt very instant he leaned to kiss the girl... but he told me that its not my fault, the problem lies with him... and his thought of wanting to be single. again and again i begged him to give us one more chance to work things out. in the end he agreed to give us 1 more year to work things out slowly.

so we spent the bookout together, he was sweet like usual, watching movies with me, embracing me and teasing me like usual. occasionally i drilled him on why he did what he did... and probed further about that woman to assure myself that he was telling the truth abt not having her contact number or her name... up till now i still believe tt he didnt because like what his friends said, it ended there and then. i wouldn't know if he didnt confessed and this would be a secret tt he will bring to his grave. but he chose to own up. i do not know why i kept drilling him... perhaps its because im still feeling the freshness of the hurt. i was confused and suspicious. he was patient with me and explained everything to me... to the extent he even showed me how he kissed her and how long did it last, what he did after that etc.

on mon, i went back to work as usual, and smses were being sent throughout the day between us. he took quite sometime (like usual) to reply as hes busy with the administrative stuff and arranging sessions with his men. i kinda flared up again and we squabbled a little on why he replied late. later that night when i was at home, i kept thinking to myself did i make a wrong decision in making him stay... since i couldnt trust him anymore and he's so tired, whats the point in sticking together now? it'll only cause more friction. so i asked him if he wanted to reconsider the decision that he made. he told me he dont know and that i threw him into an ambivalent state. he reiterated the point that he loved me but he's tired of going on. in the end he made the decision, to leave.

stupid as it is i kept begging again (i know you all are thinking what the hell...) and he insisted that he wants to go. he told me "at that point of time when i agreed to give us one more chance to work things out, i alr promised u im going to give it my best even though im tired, but why did u have to ask me this again? is it because u dont trust me to give my best?" i told him i dont know why i did what i did because i am really, really still recovering from this trauma. i asked for a time off, but he didnt want it because the last time i told him that we'd have time off, i kept msging and calling him and we still met up. he said he didnt trust me to give him a true time off. in the end, we decided to leave it hanging... that our status is ambiguous... since i didnt want to break up. he didnt want to call me baby or say i love you when we hung up.

after tt convo, i calmed myself and started thinking through his words. he says that he doesnt trust me to give him time off. so i told myself i must make good my word this time round... starting from the next day onwards im nt going to msg him anymore or contact him. i must give him the time to rest and clear his mind. the next morning, i saw a good morning sms frm him... and i replied. he asked me why didnt i reply earlier in the morn when he sent e sms to the other number tt i had... i told him tt i didnt input tt card into my phone and this.

ok, this part is going to get really long so please bear with me.

"hmm. i promised you that i will give you time to rest and clear ur mind. i will make good my word. i won't contact you during this period of time.. if u need me im always here for you. im still your closest friend. take care."

he replied "ok... if u have any issues, contact me"

thats all. my friend chided me for using the "closest friend" term as tt would mean that we are officially over. but i really want him to have time off... to think bt us. since he misses his freedom, i'll give it back to him. i dont wan him to be left hanging bt our status, wondering if he should still be answerable to me for his actions. i needed time to heal this hurt as well. ive never regretted using tt term. but now im really confused because i do not know what he wants.

in the evening on the same day (mon), he msged me and asked how was my day. i didnt know what to reply tho i was dying to, but i didnt reply because i didnt want to create a conversation with him when i promised myself to give him time. following tt, 2 hrs later he msged me again and asked if i was there. again i didnt reply. another 2 hrs later, he msged me good night and sweet dreams. the next morning, he msged me good morning... following that 3 hrs later he finally asked "are u going to reply me at all?"

i replied him tt i was sleeping all these while and i didnt see the msgs. he said ok and he hoped that i rested well.. i told him i had medication so surely i did. he asked what happened and i told him. then he asked if i was feeling any better. at that pt of time i felt dangerous as i felt tt im contacting him too much. again i was reminded of my promise to let him rest. so i didnt reply till a few hrs later. told him i am... and he asked me am i sure. i merely replied a yes. then he was like.. ok... follwing tt, a few hrs later, he msged me again and asked if i am feeling better. i didnt know what to say so i just held on to the reply. msged him2 hrs later and told him "dont worry im alright". he replied "glad ure feeling better"... i had this urge to say this so i did, i said "i hope youre feeling better too. dont need to reply". he replied me, telling me not to worry about him as he's more worried about me. i didnt say anything to tt... as i dont know what to say. when i was abt to knock off, he asked me what i was doing... and i didnt reply again. then he sent one final msg for the night 40 min later saying "i think youre sleeping le. good night and sweet dreams"

up till now i still havent reply him. i really dont know what he wants. he wanted time off, i gave it to him, then why is he still msging me? what am i supposed to do? i dont want to go back on my promise... but i dont know what to reply too. if i reply short sms, i sound curt. if i dont reply, i seem like i dont care. if i reply normally, we will start talking. everything tt i do will make an impact on this very delicate state of our relationship. hes sending me the wrong signals and its killing me. i want to run to him and hug him, tell him how much i miss him. but i know i cannot because its only to remind him of our problems. i dont want him to take me back because he pities me, or because he cannot stand the boredom of being alone. i dont want to be his backup and create the impression that "hmm, she's always waiting for me, she loves me too much. i can go back to her in the future if im not successful with other women" i really afraid that he'll just really leave me for good. i cannot interpret the meaning behind him sending me all these msgs. what does a man really think of when he does this to a girlfriend that he just broke up with? does he miss her or is he just bored? or maybe he's worried tt she'll do sth silly and this will become his guilt for life...

what happened to a love that seemed so perfect to me. sobs.

sorry guys for the lengthy post. i know its very lengthy because i think ive never seen posts tis long. sorry guys, just need to get this all out and get some opinions... thanks everyone.

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Thu, 18 Mar 2010 02:32:52 +0800

I'm not sure if it's right to post here, and not even sure if I can post this here.

But whatever it is, I'm sharing my experience and warning people out there to not to buy from this blog shop.

MY EYES ARE INFECTED AFTER WEARING HER LENSES.

She was very nice at first, and the lenses seemed to be good at first as well. And as a week passed, the lens gets more and more blur and I had an argument with her due to this. She had been nice and changed 3 pairs of lenses for me but still the same thing happened.

I thought she was really friendly and I even introduced her to my friends.

The ###### thing is, our eyes gets dry and infected after wearing her lenses.

And my eyes are now swollen, itchy, and pus flowing out like tears.

Read other reviews here

http://quentria.blogspot.com/2010/02/revie...com-part-1.html

http://forums.sgclub.com/singapore/not_buy...hop_255803.html

My optometrist said the lenses had caused my eyes to be over dry and produced a lot of mucus. And these mucus are blocking my vision, causing me unable to see clearly. Right now it is like that :

See the blue one with 2 green spots?
I have more "green spots" in my eyes than this.

And these are the thing that is blocking my vision, I'm practically semi blind.

From mucus, it had worsen to pus.
Green pus had been flowing out of my eyes non stop, and tears had never stop too.

She said that it is at the moderate stage now. If I still continue wearing it, it will turn to the severe stage, and it would be very difficult to cure as it will turn into other infection.

She still owe my friend one pair of lenses and refuse to send it or do refund.

We'll be reporting her to MOH once I gathered more information on her.

A Question !

Thu, 18 Mar 2010 02:26:18 +0800

hey has anyone shop for taiwan sprees ? may i ask if an item in NT199 cost $16 in sgd including all charges is it expensive ?

Peony Jade Restaurant @ Keppel

Thu, 18 Mar 2010 00:33:20 +0800

Any comments about holding ROM at the Peony jade restaurant in Keppel club? I heard it has a open area/gazebo that has a sea view and near a swimming pool. However, I heard some mixed reviews about the customer service and the food (Extremely good and bad reviews at the same time), so I'm wondering has anyone attended or had a ROM lunch there? How was it?

How is it like holding the solemnization outdoors at that place? :-)

Recommendations For July

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 23:45:17 +0800

hi! would like to ask for recommendations on where i can go for holiday in july?
because bkk seems rather messy now and taiwan would be close to the typoon seasons.
would like to go somewhere with good shopping deals. or basically anywhere maybe. just want a break. need some help here to shortlist afew places and what i can do over there. thanks!

Need Recommendations On Solemnisation And Wedding Banquet

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 23:28:33 +0800

Hi all, i am sourcing venues for my Solemnisation and Wedding Banquet, any recommendations? i am thinking of either Shangri-La, Fullerton or Fairmont for the banquet. Not sure about the Ballrooms and wedding perks though. Any nice and cosy venues for Solemnisations for say 100 people?

Gals, Will You Stay With Your So's Parents After Marriage?

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 23:25:59 +0800

I'm really curious to know..
Do you girls ask your parents to move in with u and your husband, or move in into your husband's house after marriage?

my SO and i have been discussing about this topic recently.. and always end up being unhappy without a clear answer..

my idea is to buy a house that is close to our parents' home ( our parents stay relatively near each other ) so that we can visit our parents conveniently, and yet have privacy to ourselves..

but my SO's take is to buy a new house and his parents move in to stay together..

im afraid that staying together would cause conflicts between me and his parents, coz after all im holding a job that needs to work different shifts.. so there will be times where i have to spend time alone with his parents..and if there are any conflicts, my SO will not be there to help..
plus with parents around, of coz it would be difficult to have privacy to ourselves at times..

besides, my SO says that if his parents do not move in with us, there wouldnt be anyone to take care of his parents.. but my parents would be living alone too! so i think its not very fair to say that we have to live with his parents so that it'd be easier to take care of his parents.. cos my parents will be facing the same problems too..

i hope we can settle this issue before getting married.. cos i dont want to get married and carry over issues that are not solved..and end up with the both of us unhappy in the relationship..

Educational Talk For Parents

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 22:46:22 +0800

Learning Workshop on Primary School Children with Learning Difficulties
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1pm to 3pm

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CDLC supports different learning differences such as dyslexia, autism, ADHD, Asperger etc. through the use of computer software together with individual teacher attention.

Bioengineering Degree Without Learning Bio Before

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 21:13:16 +0800

I'm quite interested in a Bioengineering degree. However, I never take bio in my life before. I got As in H2 math and chem. May I know if its still recommended if I take bioengineering?

What Will You Choose?

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 21:07:45 +0800

Given both companies are established companies and pay are same. Which will you choose? A job that is near your house (45 min travelling time), but need to do 3 h of OT everyday. A job that is far (1h 30 min travelling time) but very few OT.

Im A Bad Example Of A Good Fren / Gf...

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 20:47:23 +0800

Hi everyone, i didnt expect i will be writing any post in this forum.

i have a bf for 3yrs. He is gd, he doesnt have any problem with flirting only dota-ing. But im the one who actually doing something bad behind him.

recently i got a know a guy who i have to see often, exchange number, sms, phone calling daily. He told me he likes me, find me sweet, cute and attractive. And 2 weeks later (now) i like him.. i thought we will just flirting or should i say 'crush' but the feeling didnt fade off, in fact we get closer and go out 4 times a wk.

meet up for dinner, and chat. he hold my hands and i feel the sparking feeling. i then confuse over my r/s with my bf. He has a gf for 6yrs.

we know we wont last but yet love cannot control.

few days ago.. we met once again.. and we went out and he fetch me home as usually and he came to my house. Knowing things will happen..we did it.. and today his gf found out.

and he called me, to tell me that maybe we shouldnt see each other unless work matters.

my heart sink, and he stop all contact with me.

my bf neglected me, he(that guy) is the one putting all attention on me, which make me 'like' him.

he ask me to keep a secret of that night, and one whole day i felt so pain in my heart.

i know im not a gd example of gf.

in the past, my ex betray me, and till i found my current bf, i felt so xin fu.. but things start to get low and we hardly contact as well. only sms during wake up, and slp.. we do sleep over at each other hse but then startin to feel 'habit'.

i know that guy love his gf but i know that is his 3th time having a crush outside and i believe i am not the only stupid one.

and i got to contact him for work matter.

im feeling so confuse, i know some ppl might scold me. But i sincerely wish to have some comments.

i guess i fall in love with him yet i cant bear to let go of my bf. i dont know if i love him or not.

im so confuse.. i wish tt guy would at least say he is sorry or giving a better excuse.

Gentle Paws - A New Shelter At Pasir Ris

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 16:27:02 +0800

(As seen from: http://therehomers.blogspot.com/)

Dear all,

We would like to inform you that there will be a movement of some dogs and volunteers from Mdm Wong's Shelter to a new shelter named GENTLE PAWS which will be set up in April 2010 at Pasir Ris.

This new initiative promises good medical care, a larger space, guarantees proper meals and ensures the cleanliness of the environment for more dogs who are less fortunate.

Some furkids that will be brought to this shelter are not fostered and the caregivers are supporting them through their own finances.

Some financial help will go a long way in keeping this new shelter going and easing the financial strain on the caregivers who initiated this.

With this, we sincerely appeal to you for voluntary help in terms of donations or manpower as Gentle Paws will be starting from scratch and they would definitely need any form of help.

Do email farmwaylove@gmail.com and they will get back to you regarding the details very shortly.

Or you can make a voluntary donation through POSB Saving account 126-84039-0 and do drop them an email at farmwaylove@gmail.com after transferring so that they can acknowledge your donation and put it properly in the books.

Thank you very much for your kind support!

** We will be moving in on 3rd April !! **

Please support us! We would need donation for things like paint, cement, canvas, brush, soap, washing liquid, on top of the needs for food items and monetary donation...

We would also need manpower to help wash the area and paint the area, etc.

Let us know if you can help out!

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Tarot Reading

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 16:21:51 +0800

Hi,

I tried smsing Aunty Irene who used to be at katong, there were no rpelies and i went to katong mall & shopping centre unable to locate her also.. #04-46 at katong mall had closed. Infact the whole building seems deserted. Katong shopping centre got to level 4.

Does anyone know where to locate her for reading now?

Its Free! Try Out 16 Different Sports For Free!

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 16:02:10 +0800

HEY GIRLIES, there is an event on this coming Sunday, 21st March. From 10am-6pm!
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Girls, Don't forget to put on loads of sunscreen!!

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Date: 21st March, Sunday
Time: 10.00 am - 06.00 pm
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FREE Tryouts of the following sports:
1) Combat Skirmish
2) Ultimate frisbee
3) Archery
4) Inline Skating
5) Street Surfing
6) Laser Clay
7) Jumping Jacks
8) Pedal Go-Kart
9) Bossaball
10) ZOVB
11) Tchoukball
12) Trikke Carving
13) Floorball
14) Kite Flying
15) I-Bounce
16) BikeTrial

All the sports have certified and experience instructors to provide instruction and guidance. There are activities for as younger as 3 years old to active senior citizens.

Stage performance, games, attractive prizes to be given away for Q & A sessions.

Bring along your picnic basket to enjoy your day out with your family and friends. Pets are welcome too =)

Wedding Bnaquet At Furama Riverfront

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 15:49:50 +0800

Hi All,

Like to ask has anyone had their wedding dinner at Furama Riverfront before? Would like to hear from you guys as i'm considering to have my wedding dinner there this August. 20 tables.

Or have you attended any weddings there before? Kindly share and would be appreciated. Thanks...

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Tuition Rates

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 15:35:53 +0800

What are the charging rates for home tuition per subject,per hour??

Anyone Experienced Intermittent Starhub Maxonline Connection?

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 15:14:02 +0800

As stated in the subject, I am having internet connectivity issues ever since Starhub did an upgrade at my block 2 weeks ago.

I had packets dropping from a continuous ICMP test. My hubby tried switching modems, cables and direct connect to PC, all dun seems to work lor.

Problem is intermittent.. sometimes ok sometimes not..

Called up Starhub and they also dun know the problem after trouble-shooting for 5 days. Keep saying either on in-house Starhub connector point or modem got problem. Asked me change modem

BTW, I stayed in Tampines. Anyone facing the same issue?

Short Hair Brides

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 13:39:53 +0800

Hi gals,

Anyone getting married with short hair? What is the practice? Hair extensions or just go ahead with the wedding shoots etc in your short hair? I have short bob... Any advice? TIA!

Selling A Sony Erricson Hp Voucher

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 12:46:58 +0800

Hi, Selling a S$250 sony erricson voucher for S$210. valid till 31 March 2010. Delivery to you at your convenience. Please do not hesitate to email me at jimseng.wong@gmail. com for further details.

Sony Ericsson Vivaz

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 12:01:15 +0800

anyone own this model? hadnt been able to find any concrete review on the net =(

Where To Find Nice Waffles?

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 11:57:12 +0800

i personally like waffles frm gelare and nyny.

any recommendations for nice waffles? those served with icecream on top.

A Little Url For All The Girls Here

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 11:47:48 +0800

dear ladies, please read this article. and lower your expectations. i think its a realistic view on relationships compared to the fantasies that many girls have.

Wise girls settle for Mr Good Enough

Botak @ Clementi Ave 2

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 10:06:38 +0800

Is the Botak at Clementi located at Ave 2? Heard from my friends that food quite nice. Also the hawker ctr there got famous claypot rice too! Thinking of visiting to try Botak or claypot. Anyone know the Blk no. of Botak Jones at Clementi?

How Many Of You Actually Clear Ur Contact List In Phone?

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 09:58:13 +0800

For me, i never clear my contact list ( I save save save the numbers and never delete the unwanted numbers).......then now it's flooded with unknown ppl..haha.......I cannot remember who r they ...... lol

Anyone Puchasing Or Already Purchased Oversea Property In Shanghai

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 09:54:25 +0800

As topic above, if any, pls kindly share how much is your loan rate, the buying procedure and the % return when you selling it off. Thanks in advance.

Home Broadband Plans

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 09:47:09 +0800

I have been using SingNet BB 8Mpbs... contract going to expire in a few days time...

I was thinking to switch over to M1 - anyone experience how is their speed?

Acer Aspire 4820t From Singnet Bb

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 09:12:38 +0800

anybody received the Aspire 4820T from Singnet BB promotion?

Does it have an internal DVD drive?

or must we buy one ourselves?

Nokia X6 (16gb)

Wed, 17 Mar 2010 08:37:50 +0800

Hi All,

Just bought the nokia X6 over the weekend and trying to figure out the phone. Will be great if anyone can share their experience.
Thanks!

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Wed, 17 Mar 2010 03:52:32 +0800

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